The words “Schools Out For Summer” strike joy into the hearts of children and often a sigh of relief for parents who are just as eager to take a break from homework as their progeny. However taking a complete break from the books for the entire summer can be problematic.
Studies have shown that children forget between 1 and 3 months of school during the summer vacation. While reading is the least effected, the most impacted subjects are spelling and math. Obviously it is important for children to have time to play and relax — to just enjoy being kids during the summer. Children should not be pushed into a high-pressure study schedule over summer vacation. But parents can take steps to slow down that loss of knowledge and erosion of skills.
First and foremost, keep children reading over the summer but try to work in some nonfiction as well as fiction onto the reading list. Take a lesson from many experienced teachers and pick a few spelling words from the books children are reading. Perhaps tie test results into some special summer reward and you will have eagerly awaited spelling bees.
Writing is one skill that often erodes during summer, but you can give children a writing journal and a weekly goal. They can write about whatever you think will interest your child. They can report on their baseball games, make up elaborate games, or simply report on the books they are reading. There are lots of great writing prompts out there for kids if you run dry of ideas. It does not matter so much what your child writes so long as they spend time writing so they can work on handwriting skills as well as keep in the groove of putting words on paper. One easy writing prompt is to have the child describe people, places, objects, pets and other animals, insects, and games. Lists are another easy writing prompt — favorite things, worst things, etc. Then on another day you can use those descriptions and lists to generate another writing prompt.
Math skills might seem the hardest thing to work on during summer but in fact these can be the easiest. Math does not have to come out of a book and you can easily work a lot of math lessons into those long car rides or plane trips as you go on a family vacation. Try counting car headlights (counting by 2s) as you drive or fingers in a restaurant or plane (counting by 5s). Find various shapes around the house and then trace them to create yet more complex forms. Get the kids involved in cooking and learning about measurements. Give the kids a ruler and notebook and tell them to measure various objects around the house. Empty out your pocket change and have the kids sort it and create word problems with the coins.
There are lots of activities you can do at home without the expense of special tools, workbooks or programs that will actively engage your child in learning and help keep their school skills sharp. They will not even notice they are learning because they will enjoy these projects so much.
Study skills are a subject that is breezed over by students around the world. Each student has a different learning style that needs to be optimized. When you compare two students one seems to naturally grasp the importance of good study skills. Another student may face challenges because they don’t know were to start. Students need to get their minds focused on learning something new every day. It’s easy to see why students are distracted because study skills are taking second place to all of the technology. Students make sure that their ipods and cell phones are working. They offer a more convenient way to mentally escape from their obligation to study..
Teachers complain about their students poor study habits. Their student’s lack of study skills is clearly evident on the first test of the school year. Many students and parents struggle with having a good study plan. Of course most parents would love for their son/daughter to earn an A+ in every class. Most parents know the value of good study skills but they struggle to convince their student of its importance.
Good study skills begin with the altitude in the attitudes of students. A student with good study habits realizes that it takes time to memorize information and to give it a personal meaning. They know that studying for 20 minutes after school will not lead to success. Students need a study guide that will teach them how to study. Books such as the “Seven Secrets of How to Study” offer effective study skills strategies. Students need test taking tips that will launch them into a successful academic year. There are seven ways to optimize your study skills:
1. When you read the assigned text book write notes about important points.
Review your additional notes everyday.
2. You can improve your study skills memory by using 3 x 5 cards to review
important terms.
3. Create study skills activities that you will use every week. For example have a weekly session where you write down important facts on a sheet of paper using your memory alone.
4. Start your own study skills lesson plan for each subject. Your study skills lesson plan should include test taking ideas that you will use for each class.
5. Don’t allow test anxiety to creep into his emotions. Reduce your test anxiety by spending more time preparing for each test. Spread your test preparation time out over five days.
6. The main helpful study skills resource is your teacher or tutor. Don’t be too prideful to pursue help when you need it.
7. Write down notes on important facts so that you can review them the morning of your test. If you are involved in a math or science course write out all of the important formulas on one sheet of paper and review these formulas the morning of your next test.
Study skills as a way of life is the key to your success in school. Prepare a list of questions before you go to class. If your questions are not answered during class meet with your teacher or send an e-mail that contains your questions. You need to be pro-active in using creative study skills activities that tap into your own learning style.
Lastly, maintain a positive attitude and don’t let test anxiety overcome you. Expect to have success on every test and you will. A belief that you will fail will lead to failure. Develop a new study skills list each day and follow it. Implementing all of these study skills strategies will lead to a successful learning strategy and the best grades possible.
Every Parent’s Nightmare
Most of the parent-child conflicts are those centred on daily activities like going to bed or waking up, limitations of going outdoors and school homework. Many parents feel as they are engaged in a constant power struggle with their children. Parents feel frustrated and worn out and the children feel questioned and irritated. In cases of extreme hostility between the two, a child may feel threatened and determined to resist his parents’ wishes.
Authoritative Parenting?
Some parents are prone to threatening or using extreme authority over the children. They tend to make many demands and enforce them with punishment or promises. When the child crosses teenage years, such parents usually find themselves involved in a bitter struggle with their child. Even if children aren’t immediately resisting parental demands, parents could still be generating a negative environment every time they attempt to exert supremacy over the children.
The Dilemma
Most parents want their children to have the characters and the skills which enable them to make the best choices in life. However, they seem to ignore the fact that these skills can’t be developed if a child develops a fear of blame or parental punishment. Anger and resentment is common among children today as they try and fight out the level of parental control exerted on them. These negative feelings of anger and bitterness are sometimes expressed through self-destructive habits that a child develops. Many such children become violent at school, start using abusive behaviour or may get hooked on to bad company and the use of alcohol or even drugs.
Finding a Solution
Peaceful parenting begins from the time children are toddlers. The child at that age has to be made to realise what is wrong and not acceptable. The best way to make him follow a rule is leading by example. Again, to let him feel empowered, try and make the child responsible for certain household issues when he grows up. This could include taking care of the toolbox or buying the weekly quota of fruits for the family or keeping an eye as to which member of the family has been overspending. This process combines self-realisation and responsibility for the child. These skills help to create children who can embrace understanding and peace and are at ease with the idea of being disciplined and liberated at the same time.
ABSTRACT
The importance of parental involvement as an accelerating and motivating factor in their children’s education is a worldwide-accepted fact. This research project provides an in depth explanation along with specific reasons, the importance of parents’ involvement in their children’s education. It also discusses the parenting techniques, their types and their consequences if neglected. It also describes the ways to measure the outcome of the positive parental involvement. Furthermore, it mentions the teachers involvement and the difficulties faced by the teachers in getting parents involved in their children’s (this is further supported by the examples of two teachers who with their deliberate efforts won the parents over to devote their maximum attention towards their children), single-parent involvement, children’s own efforts to improve their academic levels and joint home-school based interventions. A detailed analysis of the different main ideas is given, based on the findings from other research surveys and projects.
INTRODUCTION:
Parental involvement can be seen to fall into three types: 1) Behavioral, 2) Intellectual and 3) Personal. The research explores the effect of multi-dimensional participation of parents and the resulting progress of children in their studies when different parental resources were dedicated to them. Actively participating parents help their children in their academic development by going to schools and participating in open houses. By keenly observing the behavior of their children they can rightly judge the kind of behavior or the allocation of resources required by their children. Such caring parents can also motivate teachers to become more attentive towards a particular student, thus maintaining the cycle of parent-teacher involvement. Encourage Building up cognitive and perception abilities in a child are a major concern in the upbringing of the child. The way the parents involve their children in cognitive learning is by exposing them to different cognitively stimulating activities and materials such as books, electronic media and current events at home. This helps the child to practice all sorts of language comprehending skills at the school. The results show a remarkably positive behavior at the school and with peers.
Two parenting processes namely the Supportive Parenting (SP) and Harsh Parenting (HP) helped a lot in the research of parental involvement in their children’s education. By adjusting the levels of supportive parenting, different levels of successful outcomes were observed. Supportive parenting in even kindergarten students yielded positive results. Four measures of supportive parenting were used in the study, they were:
1. Proactive teaching.
2. Calm discussion in disciplinary encounters.
3. Warmth.
4. Interest and involvement in peer activities.
The assessments were conducted when children entered kindergarten and when they reached grade 6. There was a factor noted to hinder children’s development: family adversity. It was the result of a multipurpose negative process that included the risk of low socio-economic status, single-parenting and family stress. Child maladjustments were found to be more common in families with such adversities. No matter how much negative impacts were cast, SP was found to overcome the risks associated with family adversity. SP was strongly related to adjustment procedures in grade 6 children who had single parent family or experienced low socio-economic status (SES) in their early childhood.
In a way to socialize their children, parents adopted the techniques of calm discussion and proactive teaching. They helped lessen the behavioral problems by carrying long discussions with their children, cultivating in them a sense of respect, calmness and peace of mind. Mothers also participated actively in reducing the peer stress among their children. It is also a widely accepted fact that supportive parenting plays an important role in the children’s development of empathy, prosocial behavior and emotional competence. On the negative side, the absence of supportive parenting may be related to the development of internal problems such as anxiety and depression.
Lack of the necessary parental care and attention is the main factor for the subsequent rise in the percentage of juvenile delinquency (crime among children). The absence of parental instructions causes children to develop irreversible behavioral and emotional problems. They in order to seek attention, resort to crimes thinking that in this way they could fulfill their wishes. They may revert to uncontrolled violence if not kept an eye upon. Such criminal activities cannot be brought to a halt until their distressing symptoms of low self-esteem, depression, dysphonic mood, tension and worries, and other disturbances are relieved. And the importance of parents’ role in this regard cannot be over-emphasized.
In an effort to describe parental involvement, many researchers use a term “Transition”(Lombardi, Joan). “Transition” is used to describe the time period in which children move from home to school, from school to after school activities, from one activity to another within a pre-school, or from pre-school to kindergarten. The untiring endeavors of teachers in the phenomenon of transition cannot be ignored. They prepared the children and their parents to face the problems of adjusting to elementary school programs that had different psychology, teaching styles and structure than the programs offered at the kindergarten level. In the elementary level schools the teachers had to face serious challenges in motivating the parents to take interest in their children’s activities. The teachers adopted different methods to involve the parents in day-to-day classroom and home activities. They used to send notes, invitation of parent-teacher meetings, invitation of parental guidance sessions and training sessions, continuously directing the parent’s attention towards their children. Patricia Brown Clark suggests that it is very important to keep the line of communication between teachers and parents open, so that the parents can interact with the teachers and get up to date information of their children’s school activities. One way to involve parents is to schedule school events and arranging classroom activities such as volunteering for libraries, acting as classroom aides or efficiently organizing lunch breaks. The teachers also opt for making phone calls at the children’s houses to keep in touch with the parents and getting to know the extent to which they are contributing towards the welfare of their children. Apart from the above activities, the teachers also assign home activities for both the parents and their children so that the parents remain indulged in their children and the children get to study at home. However, it was a bad and disappointing experience for the teachers when many of the parents failed to respond as expected. Many of the parents were so overwhelmed with their official work that they could hardly take out some time for their beloved children.
Moreover, for some parents their schoolings were not positive and character-boosting experiences, therefore they preferred to keep a distance from their children’s school as well. This made it really difficult and at times impossible for teachers to bring the parental involvement to the desired level. Nevertheless, the activities of two teachers proved greatly fruitful in making parents involved in their children. They were Carlos Valdez, an art teacher and 8th grade class sponsor, and Mike Hogan, the school’s band director. They did it by involving parents in music festivals and other school ceremonies. They proved to be great examples for the future teachers to come.
If the children’s academic development programs are to prove successful they must share two characteristics:
1) Developmentally appropriate practice:
A child’s academic progress is clearly reflected by the appropriate practice he/she administers while in school life. During transitions from pre-school to kindergarten, a child if given the exact developmentally appropriate practice tends to learn a great deal of language and playing skills. He develops a keen interest in exploring his environments and interacting (without hesitation) with his adults.
2) Supportive services:
These include the assistance that the school provides to low-income family students. The services include health care, childcare and community care. This strengthens the relation between school and children and creates a sense of security and confidence among the children. They get to learn that their communities are a part of their school since the school’s supportive services strive to help community development.
It is commonly believed that children are good self-teachers. Their self-initiated strategies help improve their expression, creativity, intellectual capabilities and extra-curricular skills. This idea is proved by the documentation of young children’s work provided by Reggio Emilia :
“The Reggio Emilia educators highlight young children’s amazing capabilities and indicate that it is through the unity of thinking and feeling that young children can explore their world, represent their ideas, and communicate with others at their highest level.”(Edwards, Pope. C, Springate, Wright.K)
The climax rests in the fact that how the parents would know that their sincere involvements are really proving worthwhile for their children. The answer lies in the attitude of the children. The degree of parental involvement can be judged by a child’s attitude towards his school subjects, his academic desires and achievements. There is a direct relationship between academic achievements and the attitude towards school. Schunk in 1981 had the following idea of aspiration or academic desires:
“Level of aspiration is defined as one’s subjective probability that he or she will reach a certain level of education.”(Abu, H. & Maher, M)
As a result children who received adequate parental concern were found to be much more confident in their academic desires and achievements than those who could not get the right amount of parental concern. The individual involvement of mothers and fathers also plays a vital role in the behavioral development of a child. Students from one-parent household were observed to show less positive attitude towards schools and studies as compared to students from two-parent households. One study aimed at investigating parental concern showed that despite mothers’ sincere endeavors, the role of fathers could not be ignored and both served as an important foundation for the future progress of the child. This can be proved from the following fact:
According to a recent report from the National Center for Educational Statistics (1997), compared to their counterparts, children with involved fathers are more likely to have participated in educational activities with their parents (e.g., to have visited a museum or a historical site with their parents in the past month), and are more likely to have access to multiple types of resources at home as well (as measured by the proportion of parents who belong to community or professional organizations, or regularly volunteer in the community). (Flouri, E. And Buchanan, A, Pg.142)
Also, the parental involvement has been discussed and implemented in terms of interventions or prevention programs, which are nothing but safety measures taken to assure healthy and perfect upbringing of the child. The study uses school-based and home-only intervention programs to find out the extent of intellectual capabilities found in children from different family backgrounds. The success of one school-based interventions can be proved from the following fact, which was a part of “Education Service Improvement Plan 2001-2005” of Edinburgh:
—-The Scottish Executive Discipline Task Force, which studied the causes of poor behavior among pupils in schools produced a report of ‘Better Behavior – Better Learning’ in June 2001. The report included 36 recommendations for action, which were then turned into an Action Plan in 2002. Many of these have implications for the Education Authority. (Craig Millar Instep Project)
Parents help us discover the gifts and the callings that God has for our lives. Parents help children and teens discover their vocational interests and the motivational gifts. Parents identify the steps and resources that are necessary to develop the qualities and talents that children and teens possess.
Parents know that children and teens receive the vocational interests, abilities, skills, and talents in a seed form. These seeds will develop into careers, jobs, tasks, assignments, or ministries. Then, the talents and gifts will produce earnings, wages, and spiritual rewards as the children receive pleasure from knowing that they are fulfilling the callings that God has placed on their lives.
The Goal of a Parent
A parent receives direction from Proverbs 18:16, Proverbs 22:6, and 1 Peter 4:10.
Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.
1 Peter 4:10 As every man has received a gift, even so minister the same gift one to another, as good stewards of the manifold grace of God.
Proverbs 18:16 A man’s gift makes room for him, and brings him before great men.
To learn about abilities, interests, and motivational gifts, parents have many tasks:
Assess children’s and teens’ vocational interests, abilities, skills, beliefs, and values.
Discover potential careers that are linked to children’s and teens’ identified interests.
Help children and teens choose the suitable post-secondary education and training.
Provide resources that help children and teens utilize their vocational interests, abilities, skills, beliefs, and values.
Understand the relationship between education, training, and specific occupations.
Introduce experiences that meet career, cognitive, emotional, and behavioral goals.
Present information on the current and future labor market.
Introduce problem-solving and decision-making strategies, and
Solve career issues, conflicts, and concerns.
The Steps Towards Completing Career Exploration Process
Step One: Preliminary Assessment
Parents must gain access to computerized, online, or paper/pencil career assessments. From these assessments, parents, teens, and children gain knowledge and understanding of our abilities, ambitions, aptitudes, identities, interests, life goals, resources, skills, and values. During this assessment period, parents will evaluate children’s and teens’ readiness for career planning.
Gary W. Peterson and others of the Center for the Study of Technology in Counseling and Career Development University Center, discussed the differences in career planning readiness. Children, teen, and adults can be categorized as:
Decided
Decided yet needing a confirmation
Decided yet not knowing how to implement their decisions
Decided choosing to avoid conflict or stress
Undecided
Undecided with a deferred choice
Undecided yet developmental unable to commit to a decision
Undecided and unable to make a decision because the individual is multi-talented
Children, teen, and adults transition from indecision to decisiveness when they complete the following steps in the career decision making and planning process.
Step Two: Educational and Occupational Exploration
Parents, children, and teens gather information about:
Educational choices
The benefits of educational achievement
The economy or labor market
Occupational choices
Specific occupations and programs of study
Training opportunities
The relationship between work and learning
Positive attitudes towards work and learning
Personal responsibility and good work habits
A typical working day for a specific occupation
Career exploration systems
Step Three: Problem solving
Parents, children, and teens solve career problems by:
Identifying educational and career planning obstacles
Creating solutions or courses of action
Setting achievable goals
Resolving conflict and tension
Making a commitment to reach our God-given potential
Problem solving should take into consideration personal values, interests, skills, and financial resources. Big problems are broken down into smaller, more manageable steps. Achievable goals result in the production of new competencies, attitudes, solutions, as well as educational and training opportunities.
Step Four: Goal Setting and Decision Making
As individuals, parents, children, and teens:
Set, formulate, prioritize, and rank goals
Clearly state our vocational interests, abilities, and values
Derive plans or strategies to implement the solutions
Make a commitment to complete the plans
Understand decision-making processes
Evaluate the primary choice
Consider a secondary occupational choice, if necessary
Decision-making processes include:
Developing learning and career plans
Identifying suitable occupations
Selecting appropriate educational programs
Figuring the costs of educational training
Considering the impact of career decisions.
Step Five: Implementation
While implementing and executing our learning and career plans, parents, children, and teens translate vocational interests, abilities, and skills into occupational possibilities. Parents, children, and teens do reality testing through interviewing current workers, job shadowing, part-time employment, full-time employment, and volunteer work. Parents, children, and teens obtain skill training, for example, social skills, resume writing, networking, and preparations for interviews.
Career Planning Resources
In order to assess gifts, talents, and abilities, parents, children, and teens need career resources. Career planning resources include books, videotapes, audio-tapes, games, workshops, self-assessment inventories, career exploration web-sites, and computer-assisted career guidance programs. These resources are found at libraries, community colleges, and resource centers.
The basis for most of the resources is the National Career Development Guidelines. In 1987, the National Occupational Information Coordinating Committee (NOICC) developed The National Career Development Guidelines. The guidelines were organized into three areas: Self-knowledge, Educational and Occupational Exploration, and Career Planning.
Self-knowledge deals with our self-concept, interpersonal skills, growth, and development.
Educational and occupational exploration reveals the relationships between learning, work, career information skills, job seeking, skill development, and the labor market.
Career planning includes self-assessment, career exploration, decision making, life role formation, goal setting, and the implementation of career choices.
Conclusion
We are each significant, different, and special. Yet, God knows our gifts, talents, and abilities. God has chosen us for special positions and tasks. Our occupations should reflect the callings that God has placed in our lives. Our vocations represent the gifts given to us by God. Our destinies come from God. Parents help children and teens discover God-given talents, abilities, and interests so that children and teens can fulfill God’s purpose for their lives.
As parents, we will use prayer, the Word of God, other books, videotapes, audio-tapes, games, workshops, training materials, self-assessment inventories, career web-sites, computer-assisted career guidance programs, and resource centers to assist us in helping our children, and teens.
References
Miller, Juliet V. (1992) The National Career Development Guidelines, Eric Digest ED347493, ERIC Clearinghouse on Counseling and Personnel Services, Ann Arbor, Michigan
Peterson, G., W., Sampson, J., P., Jr., Reardon, R., C., and Lenz, J., G. (1996) A Cognitive Approach to Career Development and Services, Center for the Study of Technology in Counseling and Career Development, University Center, Suite A4100, Florida State University, Tallahassee, Florida 32306-1035, http://www.fsu.edu/ ~career/techcenter/html
THE IN AND OUTS OF BEING A NEW PARENT ———————– The child who rebels will test our strength and patience as a parent. The key to helping your child is helping yourself understand them and teach them.
PARENTING AS A NEVER-ENDING JOB ———————– Parenting is the most underpaid job ever; yet the job of parent can be the best job in the world. The hours are long and you can’t take any sick-days!
TEACH YOUR KIDS SELF-RELIANCE ———————– Teach your child the value of self-sufficiency and to respect the true value of hard-earned money and they will surely grow into responsible adults. It’s difficult, but can be very uplifting and must be done. True independence is the only precious gift that you can actually give your child. You may still believe that by giving your child things that they want will make them happy but beware of the consequences!
GET YOUR CHILD TO DO WHAT YOU WANT————-Some kids grow taller fast and may even surpass you but they to understand that you are still in charge. To teach them to listen to you, try putting a marble in a jar when ever your child starts doing something the first time that you asked them to. I really love it every time I hear other kids say, YES! YES! the first time they are asked to do something.
Always relate your command as a statement, and never as a question. Most parents are prone to saying, “Would you like to start doing your homework now?” Instead of saying, “Please start doing your homework now.”
MAKE MEMORIES WITH QUALITY FAMILY TIME ———————– Family time must be all positive and uplifting. Your goal is to produce long lasting good memories from these conversations over a family dinner, and you want your family looking forward to spending more of these moments together.
PARENTING – DOABLE….NOTHINGS EASY————— Is being a parent that difficult? In a sense, sometimes it can be considered as quite easy. However, when your child needs guidance, this is where your job gets interesting. We all could have used a great course in child rearing before becoming a parent but most of us did not have one. If you do some research, you can find many resources online and in book stores that can truly help you take control of your parenting “job” and raise wonderful children. Don’t give up as your child’s future depends on you.
WHICH ROAD DO I HAVE TO TAKE TO REAR A GOOD CHILD?
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The arrival of a baby can be an overwhelming task. All throughout the parenting process, you’ll find yourself thinking and even daydreaming about things like wonderful times you will spend with your child, but you have to put that one on hold just for now. Because there are barriers between you and your child and every conversation turns into a screaming match and a major power struggle. Now there is a guide and resources to advise you on the best way to handle the child in your life.
BEING A NEW PARENT.
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The right parenting path will lead you to self-comfort most especially in those difficult situations that you are most likely to face in the future with your offspring.
HERE ARE THE PROCESSES THAT YOU SHOULD KNOW TO BECOME SKILLED IN PARENTING.
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To find out answers to solving your parenting issues, you can talk to another parent whom has actually gone through that same situation with their child before. There are parenting forums that are available online nowadays and some are equipped with online chat options. There are many websites about parenting and you can find nearly all solutions to every type of situation out there. Try to look at how other parents have ended their issues and what their solution was and try to see if that may actually work for you.
PARENTING IS A NEVER-ENDING JOB.
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To raise a child into being a good adult definitely takes a commitment (life long that is). Parenting is nothing but a continuous process. However, there can also be a thick and crooked line of parenting if you make and if you make a mistake or bad move you will end up falling. Most parents want nothing but the best for their children. If one day your child comes running to you and starts asking you like “mom/dad I need help”, will you say to them sorry, I am too busy now? I do not believe so; you will not tell your child that you are too busy to help them.
TEACH YOUR KIDS SELF-RELIANCE
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True independence is the only precious gift that you as a parent can actually give to your child. It is hard to see a child struggling in meeting their personal goal, but it’s’ wonderful to be there beside them as you see them slowly achieving it. When parents have the mind frame that giving your child things from toys, to high tech gadgets etc. When your child has responsibilities, (even at a tender age) they too feel proud of their achievements and often feel needed, feel important and of course feel loved.
GET MORE COMPLIANCE FROM YOUR CHILD.
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Relate to your child what you are seeing and also state what you would like to see for instance, “Oh you really like saying NO. If the situation is for a frustrated child, you can then say, “I know that you are irritated right now since you are having a hard time building your Lego tower, even I understand that it is hard to leaving your Lego tower unfinished”, which will help to gain more cooperation from your child. Brainstorming with your child as opposed to focusing on what reward/s will be given after they have accomplished a task will prove that you will be rewarded with cooperation from your child.
COMMON CHILD AND PARENT PROBLEMS.
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Do not let fear overcome you; the joyful experience that a child can bring to their parents is enough to pay for all the hardships that you will endure in rearing a good child. Give your child some freedom, so that they can start learning on their own and how to do things alone. Parents have the choice and the chance to curve your life’s path towards being a good parent. Plus, by being an active parent in your child’s school system you will learn about their behavior while at school.
MAKE MEMORIES WITH QUALITY FAMILY TIME.
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You do not need to perform a major makeover in starting to increase your quality time that you and your family spend together.
THE FOLLOWING TIPS ENSURE THAT YOUR FAMILY TIME WILL BE STRESS FREE AND WILL ENSURE THAT YOU WILL MAKE YOUR FAMILY MEMORIES LAST FOR A LIFETIME:
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> Remember that by having pleasant dinner talks it is one of the most effective and the simplest way to create family bonds/ties and this will truly make your memories last for a lifetime. Be sure to maintain a pleasant conversation at dinnertime as well as having inspirational and upbeat conversations too. If dinnertime conversations are not pleasant, your family members will not even remember these times spent together as a family and in turn family dinners will easily be just an activity that they don’t want to participate in. If your family does not want to participate in family dinner due to unpleasant conversation, that is certainly counterproductive of quality family time.
> Try to set at least an hour or two aside with your family, before your next scheduled activity.
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If you are a parent, you would have encountered people giving you different types of parenting tips. They will often tell you how well it works for them. Sometimes it can be a little confusing but we must appreciate their help. The issue is to know which one is applicable for your parenting style. All that you need to do is to learn how to evaluate each tips and extract those that are useful for you.
Determining Usefulness
The first step is to determine if you can or want to use a tip. Obviously, you will ruin into tips that you just do not agree with or feel are just not for you. Those you can disregard. However, more often you will likely be unsure if a tip is useful. Try the following to see if those tips are useful for you:
- Ask yourself if it seem reasonable.
- Determine is you would actually do this.
- Think about how it would work for you and your kids.
If you are still not sure if the tip is good, what you can do it give it a try and see the result.
Trial and Error
As mentioned, the next thing to do is try the tips out. See if they do work. If something doesn’t work then let it go. If that tip works for your kids, put it in your list of skills.
Sometimes you can not tell if something will work unless you give it a try and there is nothing wrong with that.
Ways to Use Them
Parenting tips come in many forms and you may wonder how the heck to even use a tip. Sometimes you may feel overwhelmed. When you get a good tip try writing it down and when a good time comes up use it. You do not have to feel pressured to change your style to parenting just because they are the best parenting tips in the world. Let them happen naturally. Use them if you need them. Do not impose youself to apply the tips as you can drive yourself nuts and perhaps for your kids too.
Parenting tips can be nice. At all times try not to strike them off immediately. Try to see if you can use them and you may be surprised at what you can learn. It is amazing sometimes just how great parenting tips can be. Just do not let the people think that you are not a good parent because of your different approach to parenting. Parenting tips are given so that they can build up your skillset.
PARENTING: WHICH ROAD DO I HAVE TO TAKE TO REAR A GOOD CHILD?Not that its not proper, it is just that things happens differently in real life.THE PROCESS OF BEING A NEW PARENTYou must admit, that we tend to forget how it is to just relax and get stuck with our boring lifestyle and jobs.Remember that too much of criticism is not going to do any good in any parent and child relationships.Proper and good parenting skills teaches you how to actually listen to your child’s needs and not relinquish them, but it is all up to you on how can you stand strong and see the issues in your child’s eyes and end to a solution that will please you both.PARENTING AS A NEVER-ENDING JOBParenting is the most underpaid job ever; you do not even earn anything from being a parent.Children now, regardless of their age needs help and proper guidance from you their parents.By the time your child steps out on the world at 18, they are considered as an adult (well, in some cases this may not be applicable).TEACH YOUR KIDS SELF-RELIANCEThis may be the thought that they have in mind “I’m important enough that’s why I was given responsibilities.Most of the time, it is out of you own desire for materialistic pressures, or to be liked, and sometimes fervent wish that your child may be spared of the things that you did not experience as a child, as an action you would want to do your best to give them nothing but the best of everything.You would make them have a fun childhood memories, or in a way heal your own emotional wounds by doing all of these to your children, you are interfering with your child’s development unconsciously.GET MORE COMPLIANCE IN NINE WAYS!I really love it every time I hear other kids say, YES! YES! Then you can tickle your child or even use humour just to see if you actually can get your child to say YES!Always relate your command as a statement, and never as a question . Most parents are prone to saying, would you like to start doing your homework now? and other commands which should always be stated using a firm voice. Try saying, You can watch right after dinner.By using rewards – You can focus on your child’s positive attitude instead of the negatives.MAKE MEMORIES WITH QUALITY FAMILY TIMEAvoid criticisms, arguing or squabbling.It is important to always keep positive and upbeat conversation topics.As your goal is to produce long lasting good memories from these conversations over a family dinner, and you want your family looking forward to spending more of these moments together.COMMON CHILD AND PARENT PROBLEMSOh, Yes! We’ve been through difficult years or so, and then of course we know a lot better compared to our children, what we must bear in mind is that time changes and what might be right for us may also not right for our children.I have been corrected a lot of times before by being rebuked that “Its way different now” or by “Mom that happen to be years ago” it seems that the children makes a point in that sense. We are trying to guide our children to the best of our knowledge by relieving our very own childhood/teen years and the truth of the matter is that we haven’t really moved forward at present time.Resources:Parenting
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At one time or another we all need help and parents are no exceptions. Parents have long lamented that children do not come with an instruction manual. Sometimes parenting can be a lonely job and parents simply need to feel validated that they are on the right track with their kids. There are also sources that can give a parent new ideas on how to care for their children better.
One of the first places a parent can go for help is parenting magazines. As a rule magazines will give a good overview on accepted thoughts on child development and health issues. Every once in a while a magazine will publish something that seems a bit off or contrary to common sense. This can happen can magazines can be inclined to be a bit sensational to sell more issues.
Another source of help is your child’s school counselor. They can be a great place to go if your child has learning disabilities or problems with friends in school. Anytime a child is having difficulty in school, a school counselor is one to approach.
Your child’s teacher is also a great source of help. A teacher spends hours a day in a room with twenty or more youngsters of approximately the same age. A teacher will have a good feel for what is the expected development for a child of that age. Teachers can also give an adult perspective of what is going on between one child and another at school.
The internet can be a dubious source of help for parents. Anybody can publish anything on the internet so be careful of this source. On the other hand the website for a real world parenting resource can be very helpful. An example of this would be the website for the La Leche League which offers breastfeeding support or the website for the American Academy for Pediatrics for children’s health issues. Parents can also find empathy and advice from other parents in forums, chat rooms and on blogs.
Your church or other religious affiliation can be a good source of help for parents. Churches can offer instructional support on parenting skills in the form of parenting classes or Sunday School classes. They can also offer practical helps such as babysitting, preschool programs, scouting programs and consignment sales for children’s clothing. They can be a social outlet for parents and their kids. They are also a good place to find other parents with the same values that you have.
Books are a great source of parenting advice by the experts and can be purchased online or in bookstores. Another great source of books is your public library. Books can give you the perspective from other parents, as well as educational and medical experts.
People you know like your friends who are parents, your own parents and your grandparents can be a source of help. Friends can swap babysitting, parenting anecdotes and sympathy with you. Your parents can also be a source of advice, but do not feel you must follow their advice just because they are your parents. You are still the parent of your child and must weigh all the advice you get before you choose to act on what feels right for your child.
Parenting is a difficult job and parents need all the help they can get. Every child, parent and family situation is different, so parents cannot automatically assume that advice will translate well to their own circumstances. However the above sources can be very helpful when considered with care. Sources such as these can be great for providing creative new ways of considering a problem and its solutions.
